Over the years, I have interviewed hundreds of designers, and have often asked them this same question: What makes you cringe when you walk into someone’s home? While I expect them to say something like bad taste, too much clutter, no sense of proportion, universally, their answer is this: Lack of personality. Whether we like it or not, our homes say a lot about us. Even those cringeworthy homes void of personality send a message. They say the dwellers are too timid, too busy, too boring, don’t care, or all the above. Surely that’s not you or you wouldn’t be reading a home design column. Ideally, the goal is for…